Memoir

Man is a social being who is called upon to lead a life adaptation in society. The philosopher Rousseau stated: “Man educated has no country; he is a citizen of the world”. That means he can live wherever. I remember the first time; I received a call from Northeastern conference, in cap-haitien, Haiti to work for them as a pastor. At this time I lived with my family in southern (jeremiah, Haiti) far from cap-haitien. They are two opposite city. At this moment I had obligation to leave my parents and move to cap-haitien to live by myself. That was a terrible experience for me, two reasons explain that: I never lived by myself and that was my first experience work in another city.

My own experience proves that is not an easy thing to leave your own family to live alone. Since I was born I was always with my family. They took care of me. They gave me attention and many things I needed. I am the only boy in my family and son of the most cherished of all my families’ son. I was very attached with my family. We use to eat together, going to vacation together, going to church together. Every morning at 5:30 we used to wake up and sit in the TV room for the bible study. However, one day I had obligation to separate myself from them to live alone. It was often said: “separation has caused much bitterness.” I lived that in my life because it is was so hard for me to leave my mother, my father, my brothers and my sisters. At that day, I could not even kiss my parents to say goodbye. I will have to learn so many things that I never did when I was with my mom. I never cook and wash my closes, which was mom’s job. Now, I was obliged to take care of myself. I remember the first day I moved in cap-haitien, I was very sad and I couldn’t eat. In the other day, I was very hungry and there was not restaurant in the area. I had obligation to cook. I was trying to remember what mom used to do I did something any way, but the food did not stated. I ate it because I didn’t any choice. I never forget that.

Secondly, the new city that I was doing my first experience as a worker allowed me to adapt in whatever the situation. The area was not developed, no roads, no electricity, and no water pipe. I didn’t have car. I had the obligation to travel by public transportation.  The bus schedule is twice a week because the road was very bad. This situation was very difficult for me because I was always stressing my travels; it's as if I went to die. The situation was more complicated to me especially when there is rain. One day I made a accicident because the car was stuck in mud n the driver tried to get out of the mud the car fell over. Every night I had to go home early, but when I was back at home I didn’t have to go home early. After all toughs problems my job was a a success, I was starting to get close with the local people. I had only one problem, which was with the people at the church, the children of the church wanted to do what they pleased. They used to do drugs and they were sexually active. To fix this problem I preached about what they were doing a lot. I also did a lot of lectures on this problem, my experience in the area stayed with me till this day. I never thought if I could live in a situation like this, I also didn’t think God would serve with me to do these big change I the community. For how lived with people in my family I never thought that my job would be powerful. I always thought they would be there for me.                           

My separation with my family made me learn so much things on how can I take my responsibility when I m living by myself. It helps me to live in whatever the situation. It helps me too to evaluate my work. My experience at this time was wonderful for me even though it was terrible.