Family should quit smoking





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Everett Koop, former surgeon general said “Cigarette smoking is clearly identified as the chief, preventable cause of death in our society”. Even though Everett Koop said that it’s easier to see almost all people smoking. Parents and children are including. Why family should stop smoking. Quit smoking it’s an obligation for all of us because of the some health problems caused by smoking. The three main problems that caused smoking are: smoking cause cancer, smoking reduces the length and quality of  life and smoking during pregnancy increase pregnancy complications. The solution of those problems is to quit smoking.
 

Smoking reduces the length and quality of life. Maybe you don’t notice all the physical effects of smok
ing immediately, but someone surely will be sorry one day.  Every year, four million people die of smoking-related diseases. This is an average of one death every eight seconds. According Tommy G. Thompson Secretary of health and human services: “During 1995-1999, smoking caused approximately 440,000 premature deaths in the United States annually, leading to 13.2 years of potential life lost for male smokers, and 14.5 years lost for female smokers”. Smoking is the leading cause of premature, preventable death in this country. Joshua Norman said: “The images are part of a new visual campaign announced by the Food and Drug Administration and the Department of Health and Human Services on Wednesday to reduce tobacco use, the Associated Press reports, which is responsible for about 443,000 deaths per year.”  Because of that premature death, families are subject to suffer a lot of damage, like: parents without children or children without parents suffering economic and social.

 

The cancer is another reason why family people should stop smoking. Research has found Cigarette smoking is the number one risk factor for lung cancer. according centers for disease control and prevention “In the United States, cigarette smoking causes about 90% of lung cancers.”  Cigarette smoking increases the risk for many types of cancer almost anywhere in the body. Smoking causes cancer of the mouth, nose, throat, voice box (larynx), esophagus, bladder, kidney, pancreas, cervix, stomach, blood, and bone marrow (acute myeloid leukemia). The U.S. National Toxicology Program Said: “Research on Cancer has classified secondhand smoke as a known human carcinogen cancer-causing agent. Inhaling secondhand smoke causes lung cancer in nonsmoking adults (1, 3). Approximately 3,000 lung cancer deaths occur each year among adult nonsmokers in the United States as a result of exposure to secondhand smoke. The U.S. Surgeon General estimates that living with a smoker increases a nonsmoker’s chances of

Developing lung cancer”.

Partnership for a tobacco-free Maine said and I paraphrase: Women’s smoking during pregnancy increases the risk of pregnancy complications.  Among of the complications are: premature delivery, low-birth-weight infants, stillbirth, and sudden infant death syndrome. Children born to mothers who smoke during pregnancy are more than three times as likely to die from the sudden infant death syndrome, according to a study published in this month’s edition of the Archives of Diseases of Childhood. Smoking before and during pregnancy are the single most preventable cause of illness and death among mothers and infants. Smoking while pregnant increases the risk of having a baby that is born prematurely by 30%.

 Smoking while pregnant can also lead to an astonishing number of children's health problems, including pneumonia and asthma. According to an AP medical news report, researchers have discovered a link between some cases of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder among U.S. children and exposure to tobacco smoke before birth. A new study found that women who smoked from some point in the month before conception through to the end of their first trimester were 60% more likely to have babies with a congenital heart defect.

In conclusion, if family people want to resolve the problem of smoking and cancer, which reduces the length and quality of their life and causes pregnancy complications, they should quit smoking.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Annual smoking-attributable mortality, years of potential life lost, and productivity losses—United States, 1997–2001. Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report 2005; 54(25):625–628.web

 Koop Evertt.“Everett Koop Quotes." brainy quotes. N.p., 2001 - 2012. Web. 14May 2012.

National Toxicology Program. Report on Carcinogens. Eleventh Edition. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Public Health Service, National Toxicology Program, 2005.

Norman Joshua. Cigarette Packs to Show Corpses, Cancer Patients. CBS Interactive Inc. All rights reserved. November 10, 2010. Web.

Partenership for a tobacco-free Maine. Pregnant women. Maine department of health and human services,2008

Thompson Tommy G. The Health Consequences of Involuntary Exposure to Tobacco Smoke: A Report of the Surgeon General. Rockville, MD: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Coordinating Center for Health Promotion, National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention and Health Promotion, Office on Smoking and Health, 2006.Web

Family should quit smoking.

Everett Koop, former surgeon general said “Cigarette smoking is clearly identified as the chief, preventable cause of death in our society”. Even though Everett Koop said that it’s easier to see almost all people smoking. Parents and children are including. Why family should stop smoking. Quit smoking it’s an obligation for all of us because of the some health problems caused by smoking. The three main problems that caused smoking are: smoking cause cancer, smoking reduces the length and quality of  life and smoking during pregnancy increase pregnancy complications. The solution of those problems is to quit smoking.

Smoking reduces the length and quality of life. Maybe you don’t notice all the physical effects of smoking immediately, but someone surely will be sorry one day.  Every year, four million people die of smoking-related diseases. This is an average of one death every eight seconds. According Tommy G. Thompson Secretary of health and human services: “During 1995-1999, smoking caused approximately 440,000 premature deaths in the United States annually, leading to 13.2 years of potential life lost for male smokers, and 14.5 years lost for female smokers”. Smoking is the leading cause of premature, preventable death in this country. Joshua Norman said: “The images are part of a new visual campaign announced by the Food and Drug Administration and the Department of Health and Human Services on Wednesday to reduce tobacco use, the Associated Press reports, which is responsible for about 443,000 deaths per year.”  Because of that premature death, families are subject to suffer a lot of damage, like: parents without children or children without parents suffering economic and social.

 

The cancer is another reason why family people should stop smoking. Research has found Cigarette smoking is the number one risk factor for lung cancer. according centers for disease control and prevention “In the United States, cigarette smoking causes about 90% of lung cancers.”  Cigarette smoking increases the risk for many types of cancer almost anywhere in the body. Smoking causes cancer of the mouth, nose, throat, voice box (larynx), esophagus, bladder, kidney, pancreas, cervix, stomach, blood, and bone marrow (acute myeloid leukemia). The U.S. National Toxicology Program Said: “Research on Cancer has classified secondhand smoke as a known human carcinogen cancer-causing agent. Inhaling secondhand smoke causes lung cancer in nonsmoking adults (1, 3). Approximately 3,000 lung cancer deaths occur each year among adult nonsmokers in the United States as a result of exposure to secondhand smoke. The U.S. Surgeon General estimates that living with a smoker increases a nonsmoker’s chances of

Developing lung cancer”.

Partnership for a tobacco-free Maine said and I paraphrase: Women’s smoking during pregnancy increases the risk of pregnancy complications.  Among of the complications are: premature delivery, low-birth-weight infants, stillbirth, and sudden infant death syndrome. Children born to mothers who smoke during pregnancy are more than three times as likely to die from the sudden infant death syndrome, according to a study published in this month’s edition of the Archives of Diseases of Childhood. Smoking before and during pregnancy are the single most preventable cause of illness and death among mothers and infants. Smoking while pregnant increases the risk of having a baby that is born prematurely by 30%.

 Smoking while pregnant can also lead to an astonishing number of children's health problems, including pneumonia and asthma. According to an AP medical news report, researchers have discovered a link between some cases of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder among U.S. children and exposure to tobacco smoke before birth. A new study found that women who smoked from some point in the month before conception through to the end of their first trimester were 60% more likely to have babies with a congenital heart defect.

In conclusion, if family people want to resolve the problem of smoking and cancer, which reduces the length and quality of their life and causes pregnancy complications, they should quit smoking.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Annual smoking-attributable mortality, years of potential life lost, and productivity losses—United States, 1997–2001. Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report 2005; 54(25):625–628.web

 Koop Evertt.“Everett Koop Quotes." brainy quotes. N.p., 2001 - 2012. Web. 14May 2012.

National Toxicology Program. Report on Carcinogens. Eleventh Edition. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Public Health Service, National Toxicology Program, 2005.

Norman Joshua. Cigarette Packs to Show Corpses, Cancer Patients. CBS Interactive Inc. All rights reserved. November 10, 2010. Web.

Partenership for a tobacco-free Maine. Pregnant women. Maine department of health and human services,2008

Thompson Tommy G. The Health Consequences of Involuntary Exposure to Tobacco Smoke: A Report of the Surgeon General. Rockville, MD: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Coordinating Center for Health Promotion, National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention and Health Promotion, Office on Smoking and Health, 2006.Web

I remember the first time I came here, at BCC to start my ESl class. It was my first time to sit down in a classroom of U.S.A, and my first time to study in another language. I was very nervous because I couldn’t hear what the teacher was talking about when he was teaching. I was so strange like a person who lost her right way.  Generally reading and writing are a part of my life because of my profession as a Minister. But, writing and reading in English give me a lot of trouble.  Even though the English was so difficult for me, I just kept reading and writing to improve it because that was the only way I could become better.  When I was writing in English I used to make a lot of mistake. That made me shame and sad in class. My first writing teacher advised me and encouraged me to continue to read and write, even though I make mistake, I can learn by my mistakes.  Since the day when I text my friends by phone or on face book I do it in English. I applied my teacher’s advises and at the end of the semester in the CPT test.  I finally understand my writing was growing up and I was better than before. Moreover my English was began to grow up I was intrigued to register for English 101. But, knowing the necessity to improve my English I took it and it was benefit for me.

The first assignment is about Memoir. I took two days to think about a good story about me that can attract my readers. I put on the paper whatever idea that comes in my mind. Finally, I found a best one. It was about the first time I left my family’s home to going to work as a minister is another city in my country far from my city. I wrote my essay in two times after that I compared them and I took the best one. When I ‘m doing it. I tried to pick the mains point of each paragraph and to figure out the main idea. I thought a lot to remember everything. When I was done my teacher revised the draft, put some notes where I made some mistake and gave me some advice.

My second assignment is about ethnography. The teacher gave us a lot choice to write about in whatever group we want to write that connect to our theme. The way we have to do that is to use the observation method. AS my theme was family, I had to go in some place to do that. I have chosen black American church to figure out the way the families come to worship God. That allowed me to develop the sense of observation and have something to share with my classmates. This essay taught me how to collect ideas or drawing my observations and examine the subculture.

My last assignment is an argument essay. The last one appears more difficult for me. The method that we have to use to do it, it’s to read a lot of article for finding appropriate quotations that support our ideas in our topic. In reason of multiple divorces I chosen: should divorce be the way out of the spousal conflicts? After reading a lot of article on it I felt more comfortable to start writing.

Jean Parisien

Holly Papas

Eng 101

05/06/2012

Should divorce be the way out of the spousal conflicts?

In a letter to Burwell Bassett, dated 23 May 1785, George Washington wrote: “I have always considered marriage as the most interesting event of one's life, the foundation of happiness or misery”(“Marriage Quotes”). Hence, we wonder if a married couple should be anytime able to run away from this eventual marriage-related misery and consequently break this well-known marriage vow:  “I,__, take you,__,to be my wedded (husband/wife), for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part: according to God’s holy ordinance, and thereto I pledge you my love and faithfulness”. Is happiness a merely idyllic and far-fetched concept? From this perspective, let us contrast the opinions that are favorable to divorce as the solution to strife between the couples with those that are opposed to the latter.

Nowadays, it seems that people have a one-sided focus on marriage and their feelings appear to be as fickle as food cravings during pregnancy. In fact, it is an approach that appeals to the excitement of the senses and limits itself to the appraisal of external beauty as exposed in the media. Kathleen O’Connell Corcoran in her article Psychological and Emotional Aspect of Divorce, she wrote: “The divorce rate in the United State is the highest in the world. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce .Sixty-Seven percent of all second marriages end in divorce”. It boils down to the following: if it doesn’t work, it wasn’t meant to be. This means that the people of our time reckon that they are entitled to live out this pleasure that marriage brings into our hearts in any way they think best. As far as most of them are concerned, it is just another inviolable human right, which is based upon the much-vaunted freedom of expression. In other words, people are convinced that the media-induced values such as cult of beauty, fleeting pleasures and others may be incorporated into marriage with no serious consequences. Their focus is solely placed upon fun, joy, comfort, luxury and so on, with no consideration to sickness, difficulties that are also part of our daily life and the marriage vow as well. On the basis of this scenario, the quest for compatible personalities is the least of their concerns.

Other people go to great lengths to state that that marriage goes contrary to our human nature. Nicole smith said: “Divorce can also depend on the extent of the problem. If a couple is experiencing some difficulties when they are together because of their differences, it is not a very good reason to file for a divorce”. In a kind of attempt at honesty, a large group alleges that no matter how hard we try, we end up falling victims to our weaknesses and character defects. Therefore, lies, hypocrisy, self-indulgence, the instinct to dominate others and greed to name a few, prevail over that need to love and be loved we felt once. In this context, people appear to know the end from the very beginning but are unable to do anything to overcome the possible barriers to a well-balanced marriage with no prospect of divorce. This group of people acknowledges that it is something that is beyond our power. The whole issue comes down to something like this: marriage comes and goes and we move on with our lives. It is just one of the rituals of our modern society. It is a giant that will defeat us sooner or later.

On the other hand, Vernon K. Mclellan says that “Marriage has some thorns, but celibacy has no roses” (“Marriage Quotes”). In this regard, she kind of admits that life is made of obstacles and strife but as social beings we are well comforted and we grow both personally and professionally within a healthy relationship. Moreover, Betty said: “Marriage is the agreement to let a family happen”. We may go further to say that marriage is the agreement which allows us to perpetuate society as we know it today. Family: It is the smallest part of the society. Then, just as in the society, challenges that we should take up with tact, arise inside the family. We do not get rid of the concept Society in spite of the moral decay and the shift away from good. Likewise, we should not try and get rid of marriage in the face of the first problems whose origins come from inside of us. After all, marriage has brought us more personal satisfaction, pure joy and mental balance than society has. On his part, Billy Graham has claimed that “Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love” within the bounds of marriage, we would add in this context.

Additionally, as stated in the Canon 1057.2, “Matrimonial consent is an act of will by which a man and a woman by an irrevocable covenant mutually give and accept one another for the purpose of establishing a marriage”. It is an irrevocable covenant signed by two people who, in turn, are committed to honoring the marriage vow they took up to their last sigh. Any voluntary disregard of any clause in this contract constitutes an irresponsible act on the part of -at least- one of the spouses. Here comes the point about the binding nature of marriage, which is set out in both the canon law and the Holy Scriptures and which people are aware of before and during the wedding. The comforting thing is that God knows everything. He realizes that since marriages involve two sinful (imperfect) human beings, divorces are likely to occur. In the Old Testament, He laid down some laws in order to protect the rights of divorcees, especially women (King James Version, Deuteronomy 24:1-4). However, Jesus pointed out that these “laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because they were God’s desire (King James Version, Matthew 19:8)”. In the book of Malachi 2:16, the Lord, God of Israel says: “I hate divorce.” According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. Matthew 19:6 reinforces the indissolubility of marriage in those terms:  “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”.

In conclusion, divorce must be the last resort and not the first one. It should be addressed when we have failed to challenge ourselves to become a better person in every sense of the word. Sometimes lost in the debate over the exception clause is the fact that whatever “marital unfaithfulness” means, it is an allowance for divorce, not a requirement for it. Even when adultery is committed, a couple can, through God’s grace, learn to forgive and begin rebuilding their marriage. God has forgiven us of so much more.  We need to make internal changes happen on the inside through the workings of Holy Spirit so that we can overcome what constitutes the veritable barriers to our happiness in wedlock. This way, there will be no room for self, false pride, greed, lack of compassion and so on. Those are the main elements that prevent us from understanding and accepting God’s precious view on marriage. Only God’s Spirit can do this work within us and subject our selfish, immature and reckless motivations and character defects to God’s will, which consists of plans for peace, happiness and prosperity for each of us.

Works Cited

Corcoran ,Kathleen O'Connell. “Psychological and Emotional Aspects of

Divorce”.Mediate.com. June 1997.Web 6 May 2012.

 

Graham, Billy. "Billy Graham Quotes." brainy quotes. N.p., 2001 - 2012. Web. 7 May 2012.

. "Matrimonial consent - in the eyes of the law." coursework info. N.p., n.d. Web. 6 May 2012.

smith, nicole. "Divorce Is Not Always The Solution 71." hubpages. N.p., n. d. Web. 6 May. 2012.

The Holy Bible: King James Version. New York: Cambridge University Press, 1995. Print.

"MARRIAGE QUOTES." Notable Quotes. N.p., n.d. Web. 6 May 2012 .

Jean Parisien

Ethnography observation

Last Saturday on February 18, 2012, I went to The Black American Church of Seventh Day Adventist to observe the customs of the people in that church: the way the families come to worship God; sit and eat together after the service of the Church. In the assembly I interviewed three families of the church on their faith, and their family expectations when it comes to reverence to God.

The church is on River Street, Hyde Park, Massachusetts. It is a fairly big church with the capacity to have at least  500 hundred people, it has a big yard, and everybody can recognize it by its architecture and the sign that says Seventh day Adventist, along with the name of the pastor and the hour they are open. Inside of the church there are three bench rows with over 180 hundred people each. On the podium there are seven main chairs behind the pulpit and several other chairs for the choir of the church.A planned, I managed to come early enough to observe everything, even the time of the members’ arrival. The church’s service started at 9:30, as written on the sign in front of the church. I was there one hour before the scheduled time. When I arrived, the church wasn’t yet open, but  ten minutes later someone came and opened all doors of the church which allowed me to notice and describe all the details written above.

The most important thing for me was to identify family groups as they gathered in front of the church. To do so I first observed the people coming out of the cars; my curiosity allowed me to ask people who came in the same car if they are a family. They were very nice in giving me an answer about my question. Most of them, over 80 percent gave me a positive answer and even presented to me the members of the family: kids, husband and wife. The method that I used was to stand between the entrance door and the parking lot, walking towards them if I had a feeling they were a family. I questioned them while walking and watched how they were seated. Almost, all the families sat together .Some people who weren’t sitting together with their family had something to do with the podium or were talking to other people. Before the end of the service I saw them return to their family. All people were very nice. They wore clean clothes.  Some of the women wore hats.

                The service started at 9:30.At this time, I saw one person come to the podium and welcome everyone. After that, he invited the congregation to stand up to sing. When they finished singing, he read a psalm in the Bible. After reading, the congregation knelt down and someone prayed for the all assembly. Once up, the whole congregation sang another song that allowed  the membership to embrace one another. All people sat down and listened carefully to everything that was going on at that time. That was the first part of the program.

11:00 o’clock was the most important time of the program.  At that time, children and young people who were in another part of the church came in and sat down with their parents. The church choir and people who were in the program walked to the sound of music as they went to their places behind the pulpit. All people stood up and sang while those people took their places. When the marched was finished, someone read something that said: “call to worship”. After that the preacher prayed and all people sat down. The church was very quiet and all people kept silence until someone said: at this time we are going to give glory to God. The musicians began to play and everyone stood up to sing for a long time. Adult, children and young people enjoyed the songs. After the song there was a prayer. The pastor of the church was done preached for 45 minutes.

The way they were singing and preaching made a strong difference from other groups. The music they played was gospel music and the people did a lot of movements when they were singing. Some of them were swaying back and forth. People were singing loudly, saying alleluia and clapping their hands. When the preacher started to preach, he didn’t stay on the podium. He walked around sometimes running in the aisle. He preached with power and people were motivated. While the gospel was delivered, people got up clapped their hands, saying amen, alleluia.

 When the program finished, people went down to the basement to eat together. Family people sat at the same table to eat. When I asked them why they sit together?  Almost all of them answered that this was the best opportunity to be together. During the week there is a lot of activity to do, and they don’t have enough time to eat together. That’s one of the benefits of Sabbath day. I interviewed three families about their faith. They believe in Jesus Christ as God and the Ten Commandments, especially the Fourth that talks about the Sabbath. They hope to see all family shares the same faith with them until death.

In my observation of this ethnography group, I realize that church is a good thing. It allows family to be together and attracts young people to have their own family when they have the maturity.

Last Saturday I went to The Black American Church of Seventh Day Adventist to observe the costumes of the people in that church- the way the families come to worship God; sit and eat together after the service of the Church. In the ethnography assemble I interviewed three families of the church on their faith, and their family expectations when it comes to reverence to God.

The church is in River Street Hyde Park MA 02136. It is a fairly big church with the capacity to take at least over 500 hundred people, it has a big yard, and everybody can recognize it to its architecture and the sign that Says Seven day Adventist along with the name of the pastor and the hour they open. Inside of the church there are three bench rows with over 180 hundred people each. On the podium there are seven main chairs behind the pulpit and several other chairs for the choir of the church.AS planed I managed to come early enough to observe everything, even the time of the members’ arrival. The church’s service started at 9:30, as written on the sign in front of the church. I was there one hour before the scheduled time. When I arrived the church wasn’t yet open, But 10 minutes later someone came and opened all doors of the church which allowed me to notice and describe all the details written above.

The most important thing for me was to identify family groups as they gathered in front of the church. To do so I first observed the people coming out of the cars; my curiosity allowed me to ask people who came in the same car if they are a family. They were very nice in giving me an answer about my question. Most of them, over 80 percent gave me a positive answer and even presented to me the members of the family: kids, husband and wife. The truck that I used to do that .I stayed between the entrance door and the parking lot, I did back and forth with all people that I have a feeling they are a family. I questioned them while walking and looking how they sit. Almost , all the family sat together ,some people who wasn’t sit together with their family has something to do to the podium or talk to another people but  before the end of the service I saw them seat in the same place. All people were very nice. They wore clothes clean...............i m not finish yet......

Jean T. Parisien

Homework: Memoir

Hollys Papas

Man is a social being who is called upon to lead a life adaptation in society. That means he can live wherever. I remember the first time; I received a call from Northeastern conference, in Cap-haitien, Haiti to work for them as a pastor. At this time I lived with my family in southern Jeremiah, Haiti far from Cap-haitien. They are two opposite cities. At this moment I had obligation to leave my parents and move to cap-haitien to live by myself. That was a terrible experience for me; two reasons explain that: I never lived by myself, that was my first experience and my living conditions were very bad.

My own experience proves that is not an easy thing to leave your own family to live alone. Since I was born I was always with my family. They took care of me. They gave me attention and many things I needed. I am the only one of my brothers in my family to be considered the most cherished. I was very attached to my family. We used to eat together, going on vacation together, going to church together. Every morning at 5:30 we used to wake up and sit in the TV room for the bible study. However, one day I had obligation to separate myself from them to live alone. It was often said that separation has caused much bitterness. I lived that in my life because it is was so hard for me to leave my mother, my father, my brothers and my sisters. At that day, I could not even kiss my parents to say goodbye. I will have to learn so many things that I never did when I was with my mom. I never cooked and washed my clothes, which was mom’s job. Now, I was obliged to take care of myself. I remember the first day I moved in Cap-haitien, I was very sad and I couldn’t eat. In the other day, I was very hungry and there was not  a restaurant in the area. I had obligation to cook. I was trying to remember what mom used to do. I did something any way, but the food did not taste good. I ate it because I didn’t have any choice. I will never forget that.

When I first moved from home to Cap haitien I was feeling lonely and abandoned. Every day my eyes were wet of the tears. My life looked deserted. It was as if I had no one. One of my brothers that I m very closed to, with him, I used to give some junk and share my emotions, he was not there for me. My Mammy that kissed me all the time and used to prepare food and clothes for me every morning wasn’t there anymore. My father that used to meet us every morning to give us advice and pray with us, the situation t wasn’t the same. All of things explain how I was sad and thinking to my family. The worst things, I couldn’t communicate with them because there was no phone in the area. Because of that I was very perplexed. I could not sleep as before. I had some inquietude, thinking if something happened during the night what I am going to do, because I was living by myself. . I was embarrassment of setting my things at home. I obliged to send my mom a letter to come in Cap-Haitan and fix them for me. My Mom left her work and came for three days to do it for me.

My living conditions were very bad. The area was not developed, no roads, no electricity, and no water pipe. I didn’t have a car. I had the obligation to travel by public transportation. The bus schedule is twice a week because the road was very bad. This situation was very difficult for me because I was always stressing during my travels. The situation was more complicated to me especially when there is rain. One day I made an accicident because the car was stuck in mud and the driver tried to get out of the mud the car fell over. Every night I had to go home early, but when I was back at home I didn’t have to go home early. I never thought if I could live in a situation like this. I always thought that my parents would be there for me.

My separation with my parents helped me to live in whatever the situation. It helped me too to evaluate myself.